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TOPIC: What Women Don't Do.

What Women Don't Do. 01 Oct 2016 17:22 #10397

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It was about a few days ago, I was talking with my roommates about marriage. Three of us have different nationality, but i didn’t think it will be so different opinion about it. My ideal man as a husband is should love a dog and have the same hobby. He doesn’t need to be handsome, rich, or smart, I just want him to love something that I love. However, a girl from Russian told me that he need to be smart in a business way, not ugly, and having a good family-ship with his family. She said she doesn’t care how many common they have because marriage doesn’t need it. Also, a girl from Brazil said that she would look for someone who has money, it is the only matter for marriage. They were saying women shouldn’t work because becoming a wife is the job. However, who made a rule that only women should take care of home? Men can do as well so do women that they can work and earn money for family. This corporation is the my ideal marriage and there’s no loss for each other if it works. Maybe it is women’s advantage that don’t need to be worried about money, but that is why the world think women can’t do anything by themselves. That is why lots of women think they don’t need to do anything. When I talked with them, I just really thought I don’t want to be these girls that always needing men’s hand.
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What Women Don't Do. 11 Oct 2016 14:12 #10531

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Hanae, I definitely see where you’re coming from. I think our society, and in so many other countries and cultures, has been this way for so long. Dating back to event Ancient Greece, where women were merely seen as an “oven”, and to produce babies. They weren’t allowed to walk alone, and didn’t have any kind of rights. Even in the U.S., women weren’t able to vote until 1920. Women have, for so long, been “molded”, and there are expectations from a woman. From how she should behave to what she should do. Many cultures teach (many times inadvertently) girls, and expect girls/women to fantasize about their wedding day, and becoming a good wife/mom, who stays at home, and cooks and cleans. In a way it can be seen, as you said, as an “advantage”, that women don’t necessarily need to be too worried about money, but I agree with you that that is why the world thinks women are incapable of doing things by themselves. I can relate to what you say about not wanting to be one of those girls who needs a man. I can see why this has you feeling frustrated. There are definitely many girls/women who still think this way. Though they are free to believe or think whatever they want, sometimes it makes it harder for the women who are trying to be independent, and ultimately, “different”. Fortunately, there have been some definite shifts in what a woman’s “role” is. We have come a long way, but definitely still have a long way to go.
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What Women Don't Do. 12 Oct 2016 22:14 #10538

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Hanae,

While personally I definitely agree with you in that I want to be a working woman in a loving relationship with someone who I have things in common with, I somewhat seem where your roommates are coming from. I definitely see how women are portrayed in the media as needing men and wives in media are seem often as house-wives or stay-at-home moms. However, I think that if a woman wants to be a stay at home mom, so be it. Similarly, if a man wants to be a stay at home dad, that should be okay as well. I also personally would love for my husband to be smart and educated. I think that having a good education background and a general knowledge of the world is important to hold intellectually stimulating conversations. I think that in media, women are often shown as airy, while in reality man women want smart men, not for the money, but to be on an equal playing field regarding intelligence levels. It's interesting to consider the relationship between how marriages are portrayed in the media and how women expect marriages to actually be.
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