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TOPIC: "WE'RE DATING"

"WE'RE DATING" 29 May 2016 23:34 #9995

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Ok here is something that me and my Swedish friends have discussed. It involves cultural differences, as well as language differences when it comes to being in a relationship. We all often encounter Americans talking about their boyfriend or girlfriend, saying "We've dated for 2 years" for example. For me, as a Swede, it sounds like two people going on dates for 2 years and not being in a committed relationship.
I have understood that the situation of "dating for two years" usually MEANS being in a relationship, but in Sweden we consider "dating" something you do BEFORE you are actually in a committed relationship, which is where the conflict happens and it sounds odd to hear people saying they have been "dating" for 2 years. I guess my question is, is the concept of "dating" as diffuse for Americans where it can mean both (and the only people who really know the extent of it are the two people it actually involves) or is it just us Swedes who aren't really clear on it? Because people can go on sporadic dates for a 6 months and still not consider themselves a couple, while some consider themselves a couple after a few dates. VERY confusing question, but whatever feedback you have is valued!
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"WE'RE DATING" 05 Jun 2016 21:54 #10056

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This is such an interesting thought! Here are my ideas::

The term "dating" is very ambiguous, but I think you pointed out the most important aspect of this term-- which is the duration of the relationship. I think the term "dating" can imply a casual relationship, and have a similar meaning as it does in Sweden. But often times, people will still say that they are "dating" their significant other, even a year or more into a relationship. I think in these situations, "dating" is just a casual word used to describe a serious committed relationship.
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"WE'RE DATING" 05 Jun 2016 22:24 #10058

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I think just as you that the term dating can have several interpretations, but the cultural difference is interesting. I often hear people from other places refer to the person their with as just someone their dating even if its been a while. So when I hear that some in my opinion just don't want to put that actual name on it maybe to seem available to others who seem interesting. I know sometimes I even debate in my head about the different meanings it has when I hear the phrase "we're just dating". But I feel it all depends on the individuals and how the dynamics of their relationship work for them. How they interpret the word "dating", and how they basically function in their partnership.
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"WE'RE DATING" 26 Nov 2016 18:04 #11053

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That is really interesting topic, and I thought same thing in meaning of "dating." I'm from Japan, and we do have the word of "date", but it means as same as you consider that before being in a relationship. When people say "we've been dating for years," I feel like "how many times you guys dated and not yet in relationship?!" I guess many, majority of international people think like that. So, it would be better if people say "we've been in relationship for years." It sounds are better, and I feel like it's more straight than using the word of dating.
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